First, we want you to know that you are not alone. Resources and support are available on and off-campus.

Respond with compassion, validation and support when an individual discloses, they may have been a victim of sexual misconduct or gender-based violence. In a recent Susquehanna University study, 75% of our incoming students noted that they were more likely to consult a friend before speaking to a parent, counselor, or University staff member.

• Ensure Safety: Make sure they are in a safe location. If you are concerned for their immediate safety try to ask your friend who you can call to help them feel safe. Consider options such as a close friend or professional they trust. Offer 911 or Campus Safety (570-372-4444), if law enforcement intervention is necessary.
• Listen: It takes a lot of trust and courage to disclose to a close friend. Listen actively and without judgment. Avoid digging for details and asking close-ended questions.
• Provide Support: Share on or off campus resources, emphasizing resources that are confidential if they are not sure they are ready to speak to someone.
• Allow them to make their own choices: Regardless of what resources a friend may decide to use or not use, you should still support the decision they have made and avoid judgmental statements about the choices they have made.
• Know your reporting duties: If you are a responsible employee and required to report an incident to the University, let them know. If you are not a responsible employee, keep what is shared with you confidential. A close friend may not want others to know what has happened. Respect their right to privacy.

The following is adapted from Florida State University’s Know More Initiative.

It’s okay if you have a lot more questions than answers and need to take a moment to breathe to decide what comes next. Here are some tips when you feel ready.

• Reach out to any on-campus or off-campus confidential resources under the How Do I Get Help section above. Consider medical treatment for STI testing, emergency contraception or a forensic rape exam.
• Jot down any information you might remember about the incident, keep screenshots of text messages, etc. in case you would like to report the incident in the future.
• Accept the help of others. Trusting in at least one other person to listen and validate your experience could provide much needed support during this difficult time.
• You don’t need to apologize for how you are feeling. You will feel a variety of emotions and all of them are valid.
• Seek information and support that will aide your healing.
• Listen to your body, rest when needed and allow yourself the time to slowly re-engage with activities you enjoy.
• If and when you are ready, you can report the incident to learn about additional options for resolution.